I'm new to the whole other genders thing, and almost everything I've seen on here is completely ridiculous. There is scientific evidence for the existence of trans people, but how can someone identify as dead? It makes no sense! Can anyone give me some evidence or at least a reasonable explanation? I hope I don't sound offensive.

So a friend of mine presented to me his gender identity recently.

He defines his gender as "trans-dead".

He says that transgender people want to be a gender which they are not born with. A trans-dead person is someone, by his definition of his gender, who wants to be dead but is currently alive.

That is the gender he identifies with and he asked me to make a request for it to be added to the gender wiki.

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Cinder Shadow

I was just wondering, is there a term for feeling a certain gender based on how other people perceive that individual? i.e. If someone perceived a certain person as a girl, then they would feel like a girl, if someone perceived that person as a boy, they would feel like a boy, or if someone perceived that person as non-binary, gender-neutral, an androgyne, etc. they'd feel like that? I'm a cis-male, so I'm not asking because that's how I feel, I'm just curious as to if that phenomenon has been recorded to have happened and if a term for it has been given.

I've been having troubles with my gender identity for some time. For a long time, I never thought about identifying any other gender then... the one I was born with (I'm AFAB). But ever since last month, I've been feeling slightly uncomfortable with being referred to as a "woman". This made me feel slightly sad too, because, I've always identified myself as a lesbian, and I thought if I ended up identifying another gender than woman, my (and my girlfriend's) lesbian identity would be a lie, and that really stressed me out. As my stress with my identity started getting worse, I started to interact with people who were having the same experiences as me, and then, I found out the term "nonbinary lesbian". At first, it confused me, I'll be honest. How can you be "nonbinary" yet be a lesbian?

Then, it was described to me by a few self identified nonbinary lesbians. They said they don’t identify as a women, consider themselves to be on the more feminine end of the spectrum.They feel comfortable within the lesbian community, identify with femininity, and they are attracted to women and feminine-identified people. I was shocked because this almost PERFECTLY how I felt about my identity. So, what are your guy's opinion on this? Should I start identifying myself as a nonbinary lesbian?

I need help coming out to my semi-homophobic parents. im 13 and bi. and i wanna wait till im 15 but i still wanna find a way to do it. Any ways you did it or found a good way

i was born a female.but i always act boyish like swearing, starting fights, beating up my friends when im mad lately. my hair is nearly looks like a avarage boy hair. i hate my breasts, they make uncomfortable. but i have no problems about my vagina. when i had my perioid i even hated being a female more. because i was born a girl people exept to take care of myself very often. but i take showers about 1 time in 3 days even if im in my puberty. i hate taking care of myself tought, i think its a waste of time. i never care what i eat even if its unhealty or make me fat. since i was small i always think that gender steriotypes are stupid . in my kindergarden i wanted a hot wheels playset instead of an barbie because i hated dolls but my teachers got mad at me and gave me a barbie. i wear androgyne clothes like sweathers and baggy things.when i look at the mirror i look like both male and female but sometimes that changes. i have alot of female friends and im really glad that i have them even they sometimes complain about me being lazy, rude and nasty. but when we went to the mall i always want to go to the shops where theres food fun stuff etc. but they stay in a clothing shop for like 1 hour and it makes me want to jump of a window. in my school i always wanted to join the boys group but i never talk to them because they would think im weird and they already hate me. sometimes i have a slighty will to do some feminine things tho. i have been trying to find my gender for 3 weeks now and still havent got a clue about it. i have so many options but i cant the right one. i donk think im transgender, maybe non-binary? idk. i hope you guys can help me, thanks for your support already!

okay so i’ve came out as ftm transgender and i haven’t been feeling like a boy, i’ve been feeling like a girl. but in the future i was thinking of going on low T and maybe getting top surgery, does that still make me valid?

I made a gender spectrum of being male/female to agender. Please tell me if I got anything wrong.

FEMALE

Female (100%)

Paragirl (99 - 51%)

Demigirl (50%)

Librafeminine (49% - 1%)

Agender (0%)

MALE

Male (100%)

Paraboy (99 - 51%)

Demiboy (50%)

Libramasculine (49% - 1%)

Agender (0%)

One can be Girlflux/Boyflux if their identity fluctuates along the spectrum. Being -flux is not a gender, but rather a state of being and fluctuations. In my opinion, I find para- and libra- to be gender identities than something of an actual gender itself.

So, I'm in a confusing spot with how I express that I'm unsure I "fit" a gender.

I was born female and most people recognize me as female and I go along with that fine.

I use all pronouns (not changing between, all simultaneously)

I dress as a male but no one recognizes me as a male.

And it's not that I'm trying to identify as male, but I'm not trying to be a female neither. I'm not trying to identify as anything! I just express and its a thing! I'm really confused. Sometimes I feel I shouldn't even try to find "what I am" and just accept that I am ME, and that ME is a *person* who *kind of* "genders."

Can you help me identify my gender? I have quite a hard time pinpointing it. So I'm biologically female, but starting from my teens I'm feeling uncomfortable with it. I'm feeing more comfortable wearing male clothes and I like to crossdress, but wearing skirts and make up is also ok with me. Usually I am thinking that it would have been better to born a male. It's not just about my mindset, but also about my body. Well most about my body. I mean I hate my boobs, I'm feeling disgusted even thinking about pregnancy and I definitely don't want to be a mother, although I guess if I would be a male I could accept the notion of being a father. So according to that I would say, I'm transexual, but I'm not that into women. I won't mind having sex with another woman, but I prefer man. And I'm more or less convinced that even if I would be a male I would be bisexual or gay. So I'm really confused. It feels like I'm a bi or gay man in a woman's body. So what do you think?

Okay, so I've never felt like my birth sex (female). For a while, I identified as non-binary,and for a while, that felt like it fit. Until it didnt. I started to feel like a girl, but also felt like boy. So I started identifying as bigender. That seemed to fit. Fast-forward a few weeks later,that didn't fit anymore and I came back to non-binary. Fast forward maybe a month later-and that didn't fit anymore. I felt kinda, sorta like a girl,but still felt non-binary,so I thought "maybe I'm a demgirl" ,and that kinda worked for a bit,but it doesn't anymore. It just doesn't feel right. I'm thinking that I'm possibly genderfluid or genderflux to put another label on it again too quickly, and afraid that my gender will change again and ill feel unvalid and like a liar. I'm just not sure anymore.

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I have decided my gender- bigenderflux! Does anyone thinks this fits me?

I'm having some trouble with my gender- I guess that was obvious if I'm opening a discussion :)

Basically, I always identify as female, but sometimes I also feel slightly male- probably libramasculine- as well. However, when I don't feel like that, I just feel entirely female. I still use she/her pronouns either way.

Does anyone know if there's a definition for this?

I just wanna know what gender I best fit. Ok first of all, my sex is male. But I do like some of the things the females get to do, as I like long hair, but people tell me to get a haircut all the time because "I'm a boy" It's really annoying and I think girls are lucky. Anyways, I also took an online test calling me a woman, but I am not girly in all sorts, as an example I do not usually watch TV shows directed torwards girls. I have also had people tell me I was a girl but those are just jerks trying to get on my nerves. So do any of you have a guess of what I am? Please tell me!

I feel kind of conflicted on this.

I guess I feel female (I am born female), but hearing people call me female pronouns makes me feel weird, I don't know how else to explain it. It doesn't feel right, but it doesn't bother me a lot. I really hate my boobs and want a male looking chest, but I don't really want a penis or vagina. I'm fine with the rest of my body though. I like to look gender neutral, but I like long hair. I feel like I mostly fit with female, but the weird female pronoun feeling and the body stuff makes me question it. I don't really fluctuate day-to-day on this stuff, so I don't think I'm gender fluid. Maybe non-binary? I'm sorry if this question is annoying, I just really don't know much about this stuff and wanted some opinions.

So if gender is how you feel... then it isn't really the "gender spectrum" it's the emotional spectrum.

(Hopefully this is still active)

I was born female and I’ve been quite confused on my gender for a while now. I never did care for pronouns too much but whenever I tried to find something that described that I couldn’t find anything. So I came across trigender and I thought that suited enough. But now that I’ve found gender apathetic I’m not sure anymore. I DO feel like different genders (male, female, agender) depending on my mood, but yet I still don’t care for pronouns. 🤷‍♀️

Can anyone help me with this, it’s all appreciated! (Unless I find what you say offensive.)

First, know that I'm biologically male. I acknowledge the distinction that most of you make about between sex and gender, but I don't understand what is meant by "gender." I'm not alone in considering these two terms as synonymous, as in meaning the role you take in sexual reproduction. So what I'm asking is what is meant by gender and, what gender do you think I am. Personally, I don't "feel" as a particular sex, I just am. So am I "agender"?

I'm coming out as peanutsexual. I've been feeling this attraction to peanuts for a while and I've been denying it, but it can't be denied. I'm peanutsexual.

Please tell me I'm not the only one who identifies as a grasshoppergender on this beautiful site? I mean, I'm proud of being a grasshoppergender, and I know many people who also have grasshoppers as genitals, but am I the only one grasshoppergender on this site?

J'aime les femme (sentiment et sexe) et les homme (uniquement du sexe) par exemple embrasser un mec je ne pourrait jamais. J'ai cherché partout je ne trouve pas de nom ou "genre" pour sa... peut etre un petit peu particulier je sais mais voila.

youre just classifying personalities as "genders"

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Hi, I am having trouble with my gender identity and was hoping someone would be willing to give me advice? I do not feel a connection to either gender in particular, although I am biologically a girl. As I attend an all-girls school it is very hard to figure out if I identify as a girl more or if I identify as a boy or in-between? I prefer dressing as a woman and use she/her pronouns because I'm used to them however if someone were to use he/him I wouldn't mind or if I was to wake up a man it would be more of a feeling of "ok cool". I identified as agender for awhile however due to being surrounded by girls and in that environment so much and not having a feeling of wanting to change I am developing some doubts. I am not sure what my gender identity may be and would appreciate help or advice for figuring it out. Thank you!

What's a good test for gender? I'm unsure as to what my actual gender is. I've seen the SAGE test and I got Androgynous. I know that I'm neither male nor female (I use cisfemale pronouns for simplicity though), but despite scouring through the many genders on here, I don't know what gender I am. So is there a test out there that sort of places you on the non-binary spectrum, instead of just the male/female spectrum?

Where was this information while I was trying to grow up? I heard a female guest on a talk show identify herself as non-binary, female. This hit a big nerve with me. As a recent retiree from a school district, we espoused cultural diversity as well as gender diversity, but when I heard them ask us to add "they" to our syllabi, I rolled my eyeballs, most likely because it was never explained in any detail. When I heard this young(er) person explain it on the show, a light bulb went off in my brain. I have never had any desire to change my gender or be with a woman sexually, but I recognize that my brain is and has always been male-oriented. I about puke at social gatherings where women all sit around and talk about crocheting doilies, their babies, and other female-required nurturing duties. I get pissed when all my female friends with spouses, boyfriends, and s/o's have their duties so clearly defined, especially in the kitchen. The women do ALL of the cooking and cleanup, laundry, housework, blah, blah. Where the heck did this come from? Even my father (RIP), who was a farmer, helped out and knew how to cook and make a cucumber & tomato salad. My mom worked like a man outside digging in the dirt, caring for crops, and in the produce stand. At the risk of getting yelled at here, in some ways, I think that the gender identity awakening is a phony construct. This is simply an observation, but it seems to me city folks are a race all their own and have the luxury of choice, not just for gender identity. No one even gave gender identity a second thought the way I was raised. You did your work, honored your parents, and, as my dad said, "Keep your nose clean!" (Still not sure what he meant by that, but I'm sure it had to do with being honest and straightforward). Turns out, my youngest brother identifies as gay. He tried for 20 years to not be gay and it almost did him in. I am not gay--I like all parts of a man, but I find myself acting like a man around men. I have no children and am completely alone, except for my social life which I force myself to do. It is not healthy to be by oneself. I was married for 8 years, have had many s/o's, and a few (s.o.b.'s) :) and still trying to figure out what's "wrong" with me. All I can come up with is that I am not doing the correct feminine things to attract or keep a man (In my defense--I've dumped a few on my own), and...I don't really care to. If you were to look in my house, you would not see a lot of feminine decor. I have a baby grand piano, a couple of computers, and have slapped together some of the cheap furniture myself. I didn't need a man to help me. That's enough for now. Is it possible I could be a non-binary female? I should find this out now before I kick the bucket.

What is Pansexual?

I came up with two new possible identities. I personally don't identify as such (sort of--I mean I would but nobody would know what they are), but maybe you do and couldn't find a word for your gender, and these could fit it?

Is there a page with outside resources or other sites for LGBT+ people that could prove helpful?

I personally have a small list but it seems like a bigger one made into a community resource might prove useful; especially so for people like me, a few months ago, who didn't have any resources to use except google. I was just wondering whether this was already a thing, or if it could eventually be a thing.

I want to know if I'm bi-gender, because sometimes I only feel male other times only female and sometimes in between, I don't consider myself gender fluid, but I do genderqueer, and I want to know if this part is bi-gender or tri-gender.

How should we (the admins) handle posts obvious meant to hurt and provoke an argument (like this thread here: gender.wikia.com/d/p/3057295935588923056)?

I locked I because didn't know if warranted deletion. What should our policy be?

More specifically where does gender end and otherkin begin? What makes a Satirical Gender a Satirical Gender and a gender identity a gender identity? Given our wiki topic we need to talk about this particularly in the context of Genders not yet accepted by the trans community (gender.wikia.com/wiki/Category:Genders_not_yet_accepted_by_the_trans_community) and which are valid real genders (or possible genders) and which are Satirical Genders. This thread is for the topic as a whole. The comment section of each page is for that gender in particular.

It happens all the time. They come on this wiki to complain and make fun. But then we lash out...

"Stop being a transphobic bigot!" "Educate yourself!" "It's not a choice and you're offending an entire community!"

We are becoming as bad as them.

Let's talk about how to deal with someone who has never heard the term "nonbinary" in a civilized manner.