Hi, so for context I’m Afab and usually dress androgynous (hoodie/tshirt and shorts) but I’ve dressed in dresses and skirts before, usually because family thought it would look nice. I don’t usually have a problem if it’s a simple dress and it makes them happy but, if it’s overly fancy or feminine I get sort of uncomfortable. For church for example, I wanted to wear a flannel and jeans like my brother. So, recently I’ve found out I’m sort of pronoun indifferent, I couldn’t care less what you referred to me as, you could call me she and a girl, or he and a boy. You could also just say im a human. I have no problem looking feminine really besides the occasional dress and skirt + makeup that make me uncomfortable. I don’t have bottom dysphoria but I probably have a form of top dysphoria? It fluctuates on certain days, some days I’m fine and sometimes my chest bothers me. I’m considering the label Agender, because as the wiki states:
“People who identify as agender may describe themselves as one or more of the following:
Having no other words that fit their gender identity.
Not knowing or not caring about gender, as an internal identity and/or as an external label.
Deciding not to label their gender.
Identifying more as a person than any gender at all.“
I specifically identify with the line that says, “Not knowing or not caring about gender, as an internal identity and/or as an external label.” because to me I’m just a human and as long as your not using a gender as an insult (“you’re so weak you’re probably a girl for example”) I couldn’t care less about it.
I have a sorta feminine name (as shown by my user) and I might consider changing it to something more neutral. However, my bio mom really loves my name. She knew it fit me since I was born (jokes on her) so I don’t really wanna hurt her, plus like I said I don’t really mind femininity so really it’s just a name and I don’t mind. I’m thinking of getting a binder for my chest (seeing how I feel about my chest first bc like I said my top dysphoria fluctuates)
That’s it! Now I’d really appreciate if you gave your input on this, have I considered the right label? I think so! But if you have different ones that you think fit more, please share :)