(mentions of genitalia!)
So, for the past 2 weeks I’ve been trying to figure out my partner’s gender identity. They’ve been experiencing a lot of gender dysphoria and a few days prior, they thought they had discovered their gender identity for them to figure out that they didn’t feel as if it fitted.
My partner was assigned female at birth, they first identified as cis-gender female, to non-binary, and now currently they are transmasculine with he/him and they/them pronouns.
They said that they felt as if the identity didn’t fit. They described that they are quite a masculine person. They would rather have a flat chest and male genitalia but they honestly wouldn’t mind having breasts nor female genitalia and they’d really like to look like a male but not fully identifying as one. They told me that if they were a cis-Male, they would still identify as someone Neutrois of gender with a male lean.
I’ve read EVERY single page here based on masculinity, the non-binary spectrum, the androgynous spectrum, the transgender spectrum and more. I’ve practically read almost every single page here. I’ve sent them multiple messages with descriptions of the genders that I think matches with what they described, I asked them to make a list on what was the top 3 gender identities that they thought fit the most with percentages. This was their response:
“1. non-binary-flux(58% accurate)
2. demimascandrogyneflux(31% accurate)
3. neutramale(11% accurate)”
I’ve heard about some people who transitioned to the opposite sex from what they were assigned at birth and identified as non-binary, I believe this is called ‘non-binary transgender’ (sorry if I’m wrong!). I was wondering if there was some sort of ‘transmasculine transgender’ like identity out there perhaps? Like...where someone is assigned female at birth, transitions to male physically but identifies as a non-binary person with a more masculine projection?
These are my thoughts. Any help is appreciated! :)
They also mentioned that the demi-boy identity didn’t fit either-
(my partner is very open about their gender identity and I will not be sharing their name among here so hopefully this doesn’t seem like I’m outing them at all!! I’m just doing this to try and figure out how to help since gender dysphoria has gotten tough for them. Sorry if it does end up seeming like an outing! I mean no harm. ^^”)