This is how I figured out I am genderfluid. (I am biologically female)
I was chilling, thinking about getting my first girlfriend (as I had just come to terms with my sexuality which is now ace and biromantic for now cause things can change), and in my head, she called me her boyfriend. It shocked me. I hadn't intentionally done that, it was just something my brain did. But the thing that shocked me the most was how it made me feel. I was happy, elated, ecstatic. That word made me so happy that I cried. My brain, soon after that, also called myself Eliot which is a pretty male name I think. I do go by Phoenyx now as it is a very gender neutral name. How do I know that I am not transgender? Well, I still like dresses and feminine clothing, as well as, makeup (although I have never worn too much of it, just like some tinted moisturizer and such). I most frequently experience gender shifts throughout the day, at seemingly random times, but it shifts based on what I'm doing and who I am talking to. For example, I went camping with my family and we met my great-uncle. For the majority of that trip, I identified as female (I did not tell any of my family about my shifts bc they already have a hard time accepting the fact that I am bisexual [they don't know about me being ace either -_-]) but near the end of the trip I switched to male as we were leaving. When I talk to a girl from my math class who thinks I am cute I seem to align female most of the time but the last time I talked to her it fluctuated pretty heavily. I went from female to male to both male and female to male to female and back to male again.
Ok, now you know a bit about me and my gender, question time.
For the gay guys:
I present male pretty well (I have been mistaken for a boy when I wasn't presenting male and before I figured out that I am genderfluid I have been mistaken for a boy), would you consider dating me or a person like me?
I am also gray-ace or maybe demi, does that affect the likelihood of you dating me or a person like me?
Is sex really that important you guys?
Are gay guys more sexual than other people?
To the drag queens out there do you have any resources you can share with me for the best ways to wear a wig and the best products to make them stay or anything like that?
Any gay slang or phrases I should know about if I come into the gay guy community?
For the Lesbians and Sapphics:
Does me being genderfluid and ace/demi affect the likelihood of you dating me or another person like me?
Are y'all really that into sex? Like is it really that important or fun or whatever?
Even when I present female I'm pretty masc is that ok?
What's the lesbian growl for?
Can y'all clue me in on some lesbian slang and phrases I would really like to understand the community better?