After a bit of digging I couldn’t find anything that fit my identity- so I made my own! I’m just posting it here in case anyone wants to see
This gender identity is called Axera, and it is a combo of Juxera and Agender. It can fluctuate, but it doesn’t have too. This can fall under Bigender or Juxeraflux.
Flag I made for Axera:
The masculine version would be Axvir (Juxera being replaced with Proxvir) and I made a flag for that too! Here it is: