So...I have a question.
Are AMAB demiboys & AFAB demigirls considered transgender?
So, what would I identify as if i sometimes feel like a demiboy or demigirl and sometimes i dont. if you dont understand i mean like- sometimes i feel like a girl but sometimes i feel partially like a girl and sometimes i feel partially male. i think i might be demigender but i just doesnt quite fit my context
I've been questioning my gender recently (as an afab person) and currently use xe/they/she pronouns. I mostly feel feminine and want to dress femininely but i definitely prefer xe/they pronouns and sometimes feel more androgynous and non binary, even if when i'm feeling more non-binary i still prefer xe/they and sometimes She/her pronouns. I've been identifying as a demigirl but am not sure if this identity feels completely right for me.
Hi, I started questioning my gender around the beginning of August, and I think I recently came to a conclusion that I'm girlflux (or demigirlflux). Since I'm fairly new to the LBGTQIA+ community, I had a question about girlflux: is it sort of like genderfluid, when you can feel one gender at one time and then later, next day, sometime later feel a different gender? Because I think I felt like enby one day, but I think later that day I felt more demigirl. Is this valid? Is it different for every person? I'm still confused, I might be demigirl or girlflux, I just want a little help :/ (I'm also AFAB)
I think Ive found a better description of my gender. So I originally thought I was a demigirl maybe? I was also told by someone about Pronoun non-conforming? I kind of also feel like 85-90% female, 5-10% Agender and 10-15% Non-binary. Can I be all three as a paragirl? Or is there another gender identity? Cause I don't really know. Agender is in the background but it still is there. Would I be maybe Trigender? I feel like it doesn't fit me. I don't know.
So hi! i'm demigirl (ik my profile name is snakeboy but thats a long story so yeah) and i guess i'm just wanting a place to just talk/vent a bit? i've just been questioning myself a lot lately i guess. sometimes i worry if i look to feminine, or not feminine enough, and just ahhhh. i don't even know my name sometimes, cause like i've been going by my initials RM lately which i like, but sometimes my stupid brain is even questioning that. so yeah, sorry for venting, but i just really needed to and i thought this was a good place to. i just feel like a fake a lot of the time, ya know?
so i think i might be bigender, i use both she/her and they/them pronouns. i've been presenting (is that the right word?) as demigirl for a while but i think bigender might fit better. i'm afab and i like my body, i don't have dysphoria or anything, but i think my feelings of being nonbinary are stronger than just being partly enby. i'm not entirely clear on the definition of bigender vs demigirl/demigender.
i also am slightly confused on the flag controversy. is there one bigender flag i should be using vs another? thank you very much if you have an answer to my question(s).
Hey! If there’s anyone here that could help me, I’d really appreciate it! So I’ve been thinking about my gender and pronouns a lot recently and considering a few options. Sometimes I really love being called they/them (like if an online friend doesn’t know), but I’ve used she/her my whole life. I know I’m not Trans, but I am also pretty sure that I’m not totally Cis. Sometimes I feel more feminine (like I want to wear a skirt or something), but sometimes I feel more Gender Neutral or *mayyybe* a little masc? Masc is pretty rare for sure, and when it does come around, it’s very small. I’ve been considering Demiflux/Genderflux and Genderfluid a lot recently, but I’m not really sure what to go with. If anyone could help me that would be great! <3
Ive been having a gender crisis recently.
Notes: i was demigirl, i go by all pronouns, im afab
i like being referred to as trans, using the trans flag as my main flag, i have periods where i feel really masculine and sometimes i wanna be male, but then I don't because i still feel connection to my afab (maybe because my body is female?) and change scares me so even changing my look recently scares me to death.
but i still love presenting as masculine. i rarely feel feminine. i dont want to be fully transgender or transition to a man, i still want to be referred to as my real name irl and have some association with my afab because again, change scares me a lot.
I dont wanna change my body either, but i feel like its female anatomy is what is keeping me from calling myself male
I dont always like getting referred to as a man though if i was transgender, but not a woman always either. being referred to as a man doesnt exactly sound like me, but i like it sometimes because its different and new.
i feel partially nonbinary too (never fully)
I also get gender envy, but its never towards girls, its towards guys, i wanna look like them and present as they do
I love mismatched pronouns and terms, like "he is my girlfriend" a lot.
One of my friends said this may be my other side of demigirl presenting as masculine, but im not sure. ive also done my own research and i feel like it might fall under genderfluid. any help? thanks :)
I have almost no clue what my gender is. the only thing i know is that im not a man in any way. i think my gender feels feminine (but not girl) sometimes ??? and im fairly sure its neutral most of the time. but i also have no idea if thats true or not. and im not sure if its fluid or static or both (although writing this out it seems like its fluid). i feel like sometimes i do have a gender, but its not boy or girl. sometimes i do not have a gender. sometimes my gender is feminine. i have no idea what it is, so uh yeah please help if you can
Like I "float" ( or idk ) sometimes to 70% boy and 30% girl, (or both, or 70% girl and 30% boy) sometimes 99% agender and 1% girl, sometimes 100% agender. sometimes 20% girl and 80% agender.
But almost most of the time I'm agender
I feel like I might be genderfluid but I don’t completely understand how I feel and what label would suit me best. I feel like I fluctuate between demiboy, non-binary, and demigirl and with that what pronouns feel best also change. In my family I have to use she/her but when I have the chance to talk with my online friends or some irl friends I’ve been saying the pronouns I like at the moment. My most recent example of this was last Friday where I was feeling more like a demigirl, she/they felt comfortable and how I expressed myself was more feminine but not completely. Then on Saturday I woke up feeling more like a demiboy, possibly leaning slightly forwards non-binary. I’ve been wanting to express more masculine, and he/they feels more comfortable. I’m not sure if I’m just confused or if I’m genderfluid or something else. Sorry if half of this doesn’t make sense, it’s just been bothering me and I just don’t have any idea.
For me i’m quite a feminine person i wear dresses and have long hair and like traditionally feminine things. Recently i have been questioning my gender when anyone refers to me as a female or a girl it doesn’t quite feel right however i don’t feel non binary or male i feel kinda in between non binary and female i dont know if that makes sense. I am currently using they/she pronouns and identify as a lesbian but i’m not sure of my gender if anyone could help that would be great i’m really confused. :)
Hi! So I’m AFAB and currently identify as demigirlflux and go by she/they/it(?), however, I’m wondering if I might be demiflux. When I first started questioning my gender, I decided on demigirl as I discovered I only partially felt female, like half or something, then switched to demigirlflux when I realized that it kind of fluctuates. But now I’m thinking there might be another half of my gender (or a second gender??) that’s demiboy. For a long time I’ve felt this inkling that there was some part of me that was masculine but brushed it off because it was easier to ignore/I told myself it was just in my head. I find myself feeling this strong urge to be masculine and be perceived as having masculine qualities at times, but not to the point of being mistaken for a boy. I’ve attempted to use he/him pronouns and I don’t like them very much. Anyway so the demiboy side doesn’t fluctuate, but it’s possible that it comes and goes, I’m not sure. It’s like…I get like a sudden burst/feeling that I’m partially a demiboy and it stays for a while and then goes away/i forget about it?? I’m sorry if this doesn’t make sense T-T
It feels like one half of my gender is demigirl and I feel like the intensity of it fluctuates, going down to agender at times (sometimes in a genderneutral sense, sometimes in a “no gender” sense) . So it can be anything between agender and demigirl
The other half is demiboy and it doesn’t fluctuate (but MAYBE comes and goes).
EDIT: forgot to add that I feel minor dysphoria at times in which I want to bind, but I wouldn’t get surgery or anything.
So does this mean I’m demiflux or something different? Any input would be appreciated, thank you :)
So the only other place I can think to put this would be reddit but like yeah anyway so here we go.
Haircuts? Yes I am asking a bunch of gay internet strangers for haircut ideas but here I am. so I am wandering along the gender path where I creep from one side of the gender binary to the other. I started my gender exploration thingy in about February when one of my friends came out as a demiboy and I didn't know what it meant so I googled it. I also found the definition for demigirl and thought 'cool' and continued with my day. Next week I had a gender crisis and decided I was a demigirl. About a month later I decided I was non-binary and here I am, June, thinking I might be a trans dude/demiboy. Anyway, to fit my shifting identity I want a new haircut. Back in November I donated 15 inches of hair to children with hair loss (I'm not joking that's legit the name of the organization) and I've never felt free-er(?) with my gender expression/identity. I'm AFAB so I've always felt that I had to fit into one box: girl. And I'm thinking some subconscious part of me knew I wasn't a girl and basically just imagine my entire life of gender expression being that stage of TRANSing when your just expressing your self as hyper-femme (or hyper-masc) to like "woman the man out of you" (or vise-versa) or whatever. That has been my entire life up to this point and I'm not joking. I wore skirts/dresses every day, I hated the color pink but otherwise was more "girl" than anyone else I knew. Anyway I had really long hair and decided that I didn't need this hair, but some other girl might really need it. So I sliced off all of my hair and donated it. the hair that I had been growing since I was about 7 was gone. And I didn't feel sad, I felt really happy actually. My aunt cut my hair for me as she is a hair dresser and I told her that I wanted a pixie cut. She gave me a Karen cut with the phrase "if you don't like it, this is easier to grow out" and I liked the Karen cut for about a week before I went to a different stylist with no family ties to fix it. For context on my aunt, she is really really catholic and I have theories that she guessed I was trans and did all she could to "stop me" some how. Anyway I had my average girl pixie cut of my dreams, and then, I needed it to be trimmed. I was in track and my hair was too short to tie back but so long it got in my way when I was running and jumping and stuff. so I cut it to about 1.5 inches and had it all gelled to my right side (except my undercut, obviously) and now I want to grow it out to a different short hairstyle, but I'm not sure what I want to do. I want to have a haircut that makes me look more masculine but I'm not entirely sure how to do that besides walking into a barber shop and saying "hi my names River I'm trans make me look like an 8 year old boy please" but I'm not entirely sure how good of an idea that is especially because I don't have any ideas so the barber would have to have previous experience making AFAB people look masc. So I thought it would be a good idea to ask gay strangers on the internet so here I am. Anyway, hair stuff
I have dark brown hair
Straight hair (unlike me :P)
I don't have glasses
I'm really active so I need something either:
A: long enough to tie back
B: short enough its not in my way
Or C: is already pointing backwards so it just gets more styled when I'm running
I'm fairly sure I've got an oval shaped face
And I'm AFAB so I want something masculinizing
Thanks!!!! Any and all ideas are good ideas and I'm open to trying basically anything as I've had 4 hair styles since October.
-River they/them (maybe he/they I don't actually know :P)
I know this is kinda long but I wanna add full context. This might be confusing but it's just as confusing to me so any help or advice is appreciated!
I’m afab, use she/they pronouns
For the past month I’ve been questioning my gender. I have questioned my gender in the past but it never lasted longer than like a day tops. It was usually due to the lack of sleep, and I feel like it could be now as my sleeping pattern is currently not great.
I am, and mostly have always been, ok with using female terms, looking feminine and having femenine features, and identifying as female but for some reason I just don’t want to be cis. I have experimented with ftm, non binary, and somewhat with genderfae and demigirl. None of these terms seem to fit and I ended up not liking he/him pronouns or masc things/identifying masc for the most part. I have experimented with non binary more than others as it seems that what my mind keeps throwing at me but every time I try labeling myself as non binary I get hit with thoughts such as
“You’re cis stop lying to yourself/gaslighting yourself”
“This doesn’t fit at all”
The thing is these thoughts often worsen by getting sleep, but I don't think that questioning my gender is 100% caused by lack of sleep because it's still mostly a problem when I'm not tired. I am aware that this just might be impostor syndrome but it gets too overwhelming and I just go back to cis/questioning. I have looked into terms like demigirl, demigirlflux, bigender, girlflux, genderfae, paragirl, and genderfluid but none of those seem to fit either. This whole crisis started after I changed my sexuality (pan/ace to omni/ace) because I really hated the discourse around pan, and omni was just a better label for me in general. I know I may just end up being cis in the end but this is really confusing and need someone's outsider perspective/advice.
So I’m afab and I don’t know what gender identity I am, and i have a few questions. if someone is Demi non-binary, can they still use they/she or they/he pronouns, even they/them? Second I feel like a demigirl but still don’t know what gender identity I am. I need help pls 🧎🏽♂️