I’m unsure of my gender and I’m suspecting that I’m genderfaer, if anyone from that community could talk to me/be willing to give me advice that would b greatly appreciated
So my friends says she feels femme/agender and they uses she/they pronouns. So is she still cis girl or are they something else? thansk for helping me .
TW: misgendering, religion
Hi! So I am having a hard time with my gender. I identified as a demi-girl for a while, but now I identify as non-binary. I don't know if that fits me anymore.
I feel like I look more a boy than a girl on some days, then the opposite on other days. Then not fitting in with either gender. I don't feel comfortable in a lot of "feminine" clothes because it does not look right on me. I feel like more "masculine" or gender neutral clothes look good on me. They feel more comfortable and more right on my body. I hate it when someone calls me a girl. I don't want to tell them because I don't know how they will react.
My parents (mostly my mom) uses "daughter", "girl", and my birth name (nina) when talking about me. Every-time I try and talk to her about it (or just LGBTQ+ things), she just says "your too young to be talking about that. Wait till you are 18, then we can talk about it". My whole family is christian (im not really) so, the only people I can really talk to about LGBTQ topics is online.
If you are still here, thank you for reading this. You are awesome 😎. Im sorry if you did not understand this. I am just really confused. If you know a gender that describes what i'm feeling, please leave it down below. Thank you!! 🐸
I thought i was 100% sure i was a demigirl until the last week or so. i am afab. i don’t want to completely lose my femininity but i don’t always feel connected to it. i hate wearing dresses, skirts, heels, and really anything that makes me feel and present as extremely feminine. i like to dress androgynous and masculine because it’s what makes me feel comfortable. i don’t like being called girl or girlfriend. i use they/she pronouns and prefer they/them over she/her, but i still like she/her. i kind of feel like a mix of non-binary and female if that makes sense??? but i don’t mind being called sir or dude either. i wish i had a flatter chest but i don’t have a problem with have female genitals. i think having boy genitals would be weird and the thought makes me uncomfortable. i also like being called masculine/unisex names. my original name is grace. i still use the name because it makes me feel feminine. i use three other name also (xen, cypher, and grey). if anyone knows any gender identities that describe what i’m feeling please let me know !!
I really want to improve a lot of these pages since some vary from not very well organized to not much information/barely any information at all. I need help though since I can't be doing it 24/7. I have lots of stuff going on in my personal life currently so I really need help.
So... Nice to meet you. I'm doing this introduction simply because writing it down will be such a relief.
Right, so. I'm nomifluid and my names flow with my gender. I flow between Maia and Mackenzie (or Mack for short).
I'm bi-genderfluid and flow between female and neutrois.
Like with my names, my pronouns are also fluid and flow with my gender (when referring to myself I simply use the term multipronominal). When I'm Maia and female I use the neopronouns xe/xem/xyr and when I'm Mack and neutrois I use they/them/their.
(Today I learnt that my mind enjoys to flow a tad too much.)
This has been nice to actually wright down. So, yeah. Hi.
I feel like my gender is a mix of Demi-Bigender and Demi-Fluid. I feel like one part of me is a women and the other part is a non-binary gender, but it changes it strength over time. One day it feels like my female and my non-binary part are the same, the next day I only feel like a female and the third day I feel like it's female and kind of Demi-non-binary. But the female part is at least 50% of my gender.
Is there a label that fits to my gender? I know I don't have to label my self, but I feel more comfortable when I have a label.
Okay, so. I planned on coming out soon to my family about being bi-genderfluid, nomifluid and multipronominal. But I ended up talking to my parents about gender today and somethings were said that made me uncomfortable.
Like, they didn't say anything actually against genders that aren't cis, they just didn't understand it. Plus one of them said that they didn't know how we as people would be aware of what a gender presence was as we've always just been ourselves, and this made me feel really bad as someone whose gender presence changes. It was also stated that they didn't understand why some people may be uncomfortable being called certain things (like certain pronouns or words such as "girl" that relate to a certain gender) and this made me feel really uncomfortable.
Now I really don't know what to do, because I always thought that would be super excepting but now I'm not so sure.
If anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it, as I'm currently really scared.
(Btw I also posted this on the LGBTA Wiki as I really some help.)
I am AFAB. For years, (up until recently) I have never minded being seen as a girl I guess. I never FELT like a girl, but then again, I don't think I feel like any gender really ??
At the beginning of my questioning, I thought I might be agender or non binary.
Then I looked into demigirl and I thought I might be that, 'cause I didn't really mind certain "girly" terms (some I really don't like)
Then I got confused more.
Sometimes I can't help but look at certain guys and just feel some sort of envy. I want short "gamer boy" hair, I want to be taller, I want to have a deeper, neutral sounding voice and have a flat chest, I want people to not know what gender I am, I want to wear more masculine/androgynous clothing and also present myself that way.
When I think about it, my ideal body would be very different from my current female body.
Hell, maybe I'd want a genderless body, the body I desire may even be impossible and doesn't even exist.
But here's the thing that confuses me.
I don't exactly feel gender.
I identify as non binary atm.
But I just don't know... Do I feel gender ??? I just
Like- I desire all these traits, to look a certain way, to BE a certain and to be percieved in another way, but I just can't point if I FEEL gender at all. I never understood what it means to feel gender and if I don't feel any gender in the end, wouldn't I just not care ?
I can acknowledge that I’m a boy and believe that I am a boy and don’t think I experience gender dysphoria. But sometimes when speaking to people and they call me “lad” “mate” “handsome” “son” “man” etc it really makes me very uncomfortable but I’m confused if it is to do with the association with men in general. I’m a very feminine person. Is there a gender to express how I feel? And if I am cis male is it possible to use they/them pronouns?
Please help. I have a huge id crisis. For the most of my life I identified as a girl but for the last two year I expirienced weird stuff. It is hard to explain but I will try. I had like phases in which I sometimes felt like people should see me as a boy (and also I can see muself as one when it happens) at occasions but than it faded for and I was again feeling like a girl. It usually happens when I play video games with my boyish friends, I think about my relationship with a woman (I'm heteroflexible/bisexual), ... or out of nowhere (that is rare). I am also still changing my appereance because of that this weird flactuations (I'm going for more boyish look-short hair, boyish clothes). And I also once expirienced body dysphoria so I know the feeling. And the cis gender just does not feel right. I also noticed how when watching movies I usually get obssesd with certain male characthers bacause I want to look like them-be a boy like them. But than at the other hand I feel like a girl 98% most of the time and I'm comfortable with it. And than I feel like cis would probably fit but than I remember my boy phases and than I'm all confused. I tried to go with a term bigender and genderfluid or maybe demigenderfluid but I'm not sure if actually the feelings that I'm getting are flactuating gender or just me trying to be someone else or not. And they also mostly don't sound right. Probably the most sutible is bigender. Than I ask myself if I'm trying to fake it but it doesn't sound right because why would I have weird feelings like this if I was cis...cis pople around me almost never question their identities as much as me and don't have this weird feelings. So what does this sound like to you, anyone? It's actually really making me anxious. Please help!
In past two year I also made like a male version of me in my head...I called it alter ego and it shows tself sometimes, but this maybe sounds to me like a way to cope with me being bigender or genderfluid? Cuz I still act normal but feel like my "BOY alter ego"? And when I presented myself like a guy for a halloween I actually gelt body euphoria.
I also hate when my mother calls me "my little girl" or something else like that (I makes me uncomfortable in the gender context like something is not right with me being just a girl).
Thank you for actually reading this and helping me!!! I am really greatful!
Lately I've been questioning both my gender and sexuality. I've always used to believe that I'm a girl(the gender I was born with) and I never thought that I would question that. But of late, I've become confused. I wanna be a boy, I wanna be a girl, sometimes I have no idea. I don't particularly care what pronoun others call me.(I often get mistaken as a boy because of my short hair.) I honestly like it when they call me a boy. If someone called me something else I probably wouldn't care. I also have no idea what a bunch of gender and sexuality terms mean so I have no idea what to look for.
I also used to think I was a lesbian but I think that was because I was going through men hating phase.(It was because of many different things.) Also now that I'm questioning my gender that makes things more complicated. I think I might be pans tbh.
I'm AFAB, and have been spending a decent amount of time researching different gender identities to find ones that fit... but none seem exactly right. I'm thinking I may be androgyne or perhaps genderfaun, but again I'm very unsure. I deal with gender dysphoria and I believe some time in the future I will probably get top surgery. My chest, thighs/hips are the things that bother me about my appearance. I don't often like presenting myself physically as feminine, I don't care for dresses/high heels. However, every so often I feel more feminine and am okay with wearing crop tops & jewelry. Most often when I dress I dress to cover my chest or any curves on my body, and like the way that typical masculine clothing looks on me. That type of clothing feels most comfortable to wear. When I was younger I wished I was a boy because I thought it would be easier and feel more comfortable. I don't really feel that way anymore, though I do workout and sometimes wish my body was more masculine because I like how muscles look on me. I've only ever used the pronouns she/her, but I don't think he/him would fit. They/them may, but I've never experimented with using them before, and I don't think simply non-binary fits me well. I also hate being referred to as a 'woman' or 'lady', but 'girl' seems okay to me.
Hopefully that made sense and wasn't too confusing.
My gender is very confusing. It feels soft and childish and light, but also softly masculine. Sort of like Cinnamoroll from Sanrio? I know this doesn't make any sense, but normal terms don't seem to fit. Can someone please help me?
I have body and social dysphoria when I am referred to as female. I'm AFAB. I also have Autism, ADHD, depression, and anxiety, if that matters. Gender is just so confusing and hard to explain.
in july after a good bit of research I thought I was demigirl. but now I'm not so sure if I'm comfortable with that label anymore.
I'm an AFAB that shares both feminine and masculine characteristics. I feel like both a guy and a girl mentally, but I'm uncomfortable with the term bigender. (not exactly sure why) I sometimes also feel part of me is genderless because of the mix of my characteristics. (I feel like my gender feels like it's in one set place and not fluid just fyi)
I'm also confused because I'm comfortable with any pronoun yet I don't like being called girly pet names or whatever. (i.e. someone calling me a "good girl") (I mean I hate pet names in general I just mean being called a girl or whatever) like I feel partially female but I hate feminine labels.
I don't know if I'm making any sense oop.
any help with knowing what my identity is?
Okay so I'm not very good with words so sorry if this makes no sense
Hi my name is Savannah, but please call me E, I am an 18-year-old who was born female. I identify as a female rn. As far as IK I have never felt any gender dysphoria and am somewhat happy with my body. Lately, I've been having weird feelings though. I've had many people mistakes me as a boy in the past and felt happy like my heart skipped a beat, but I just ignored it pushed it aside. I know I am female and am very happy to be a girl and have boobs but I also want to be considered and treated as a man too. I know I do not want to transition or anything because IK that would make me feel more depressed to lose any female side but I'm not completely happy anymore with how I am either. I'm not really sure what I'm asking for other than just some help and someone to talk to. I'm scared to talk to my best friend about this because IK she won't get it. I want to clear my feelings before bringing it up to the people around me. how do I get both? IK I don't want to be called they/them, but I'm not happy being called only she/her is there such thing as being called he/she? I'm not so much where somedays I feel more masculine and other days feminine but just a mix all the time. but also not always 50/50. so rarely 100/0 one gender but not always 50/50 male/ female either, does that even make sense? also again I'm sorry this is a mess, this is kinda how have been feeling lately.
I believe that gender is not something naturally real and that to say that gender identity exists is to say that it is okay for society to assign roles and behaviors to people based on their physical sex, the concepts of "masculinity" and "femininity" only prohibit us from fully developing our personality. I agree with the abolition of gender, so I don't have one: if I am "masculine" or not it is because I want to be and not 'cause society expects that from me, so I act independently of other boys. I like to look "masculine" and I'm totally in agreement with my sex and my sexual characteristics, and I want to be referred to as "he" ('cause I think pronouns should refer to sex and not gender), so I don't have sexual dysphoria.
Do you think the labels I used in the title are right for me?