Hello everyone! I was wondering if someone could try different pronouns for me? I want to see how if feels. Could you try anything that's not she/her?
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I sometimes seem to switch back and forth, or feel them at the same time, but I wonder if it's fluctuating dysphoria, or maybe I'm just confused. I felt a sense of relief when I found Sonnian, a non-binary xenogender that's connected to both the void (genderlessness) and soft celestial masculine energy. I don't think I'm male-aligned, but my friend says I act very guyish, and I'm told that I have very masc energy? (I'm afab). I also found the term Cenrell, a gender that's on the neutral spectrum but is connected to masculinity, not aligned. Can I see some more terms that might fit better?
So, I’m relatively confident in my gender identity. I’m amab and identify as male and am comfortable with my assigned gender, but have been feeling disconnected from some secondary sex characteristics, like for example, the structure of my hips, the size of my hands and feet, and the pitch/tone of my voice and feel like I would feel more like myself if I could possess those (feminine/female) traits. I don’t experience any dysphoria or uncomfort in regards to my genitalia lol. So, ig I experience some bodily/sexual dysphoria in regard to select sex characteristics, but don’t experience dysphoria regarding my gender IDENTITY. I also don’t experience enough bodily dysphoria to motivate me to want to transition or anything, but it is still present and moderately, negatively effective in my life. I guess I’m just wondering if there’s a label that’s similar to what I’m describing or if I’m just full of bs lol :,)
anyways, thanks !
Hey, so I’ve been thinking about how I’m going to come out to my parents. They’re pretty liberal, and cool with homosexuality and transgender people, but anything more obscure than that and they struggle to understand (to give you an idea of what I mean, they’re only just beginning to understand bisexuality). Since there are so many identities on this site that my parents would never even imagine, I’m sure a lot of people have had the same problem, so I was wondering how anyone on here came out and how it went? Did anyone come out as a different thing so they'd be more understanding? (e.g. pan people coming out as bi) Or do you just keep your true identity online? I feel like its going to take a power point presentation to explain to them and they'll still have no idea what's going on 😅
I don’t know if im just cisgender or not but I at least feel feminine. I use She/Her but I also use some non-binary pronouns as well, like for example, It/Its is one of my favorites. I don't feel Agender though. I don't know if i'm part non-binary or not. Like my non-binary pronouns make me feel really happy inside but I also feel femine? I don’t know. It's weird. I do know that my gender doesn't fluctuate in any way. I need help if anybody can pinpoint anything? Thank you. That would be helpful.
Hi, so I was wondering if anyone knew what gender relates to these things: it feels really bright sometimes (not strong, just bright) and sometimes it feels really dull (not weak, just dull) but I also can't really figure out if anything is there at all. I also kinda feel like there's a jester running my mind??? Like my emotions and personality and such? I guess my gender usually goes along with my emotion (like it's bright whenever I'm happy & energized, but dull whenever I'm doing really bad mentally, and kinda goes fuzzy whenever I'm anxious?) I'm really bad at explaining things, so sorry about that, but can anyone help? (I also posted this in the LGBTA Wiki, so if you see this there, don't be confused.)
As of right now i identify as aporagender and pan-abro, but at the same time, i don't think i am either of them.
Gender identity - i identify more masculine and nonbinary, and feminine aligned genders is definitely there but idk how to describe it well. it's like static but if the static was super loud and bass boosted while flickering on and off.
Sexuality - i am pansexual abro romantic, but romantically i am mainly really attracted to masc-aligned most of the time. other times i feel nothing or no preference, and rarely i only focus on fem-aligned.
Can anyone help?
LGBT+ Gender Identity Community Construct | Abbreviated as LGBT+GICC, similar to LGBT+SCC, this is the primary community construct of the LGBT+ association and includes policies to prevent misinformation, misinterpretation, and strictly forbids ‘new’ gender identities being created without abiding by the true meaning of what makes a gender identity itself. Morongender is the satire sub-group of it. Members of the LGBT+SCC could belong to any gender identity as long as it follows the general and elaborated appropriate definition of the term ‘genders’.
Gender Dependent | A person who is gender dependent may be referred to gender apathetic, though they are no exactly similar; as a gender dependent person’s gender identity depends on what people refer to as. Do not confuse this with others refer to a person any pronouns, that is either pronoun apathetic or pronoun dependent. Again, note that the general four pronouns does/could refer to your representative gender identity.
Gender Independent | A person who is gender independent assigns a gender identity by themselves, without people referring whatever they want. A gender independent can be any gender, including non-binary, third gender, genderfluid, agender, etc, as long as they identify the gender identity by themselves. A gender independent person is most unlikely gender apathetic; a pronoun independent person choose their pronouns by their own, in contrary to pronoun apathetic and gender apathetic.
Hi... Recently I have been exploring my gender and what it could be. I still cannot figure it out.
I feel like I have 3 genders, male, female, and non-binary. Though I don't think I am genderfluid. I am not sure if I am a pangender or omnigender- I don't really have a preference on which gender. They just come naturally. So if anyone who knows more than me could help me figure out what gender I might be, that would be so amazing.. Thanks.
I have been questioning my gender for awhile now and I think I found a term that fits, but I'm not so sure
I guess I don't really known what I feel. I don't feel like a man but I dress in a stereotypical Masculine way, but I still look very feminine even though I don't dive into what society sees as feminine/female. I am in the process (very slow process) of changing my name, because my birth name causes me a lot of confusing negative emotions. As far as my body I don't experience any problems, so I wouldn't say I feel dysphoric, though I haven't been completely comfortable with my chest lately. I get angry and depressed cause idk if what I feel is real or not, or what it even means. I don't want to be someone I'm not or hurt anyone if this isn't real and I don't want to come out as anything when I'm not 100 per cent sure as what it is I am feeling
I have found Demiandrogyne and have wondered if that fits? It says a mix of female, male and a third gender, but can it be the feeling of being feminine/masculine instead of female and male? Or is that something different? Cause at this point idk if I feel much connection to my female identity anymore, but tbh, what does it even mean to feel male or female or Non-Binary? I genuinely don't know
What do you guys think? Any help would be greatly appreciated
Have a great day to all you lovely people
EDIT: I also forgot to mention that I identify as Lesbian/Ace, so this draws quite the confusion towards this as well, cause I feel VERY comfortable with the Lesbian label, so my feminine qualities aren't fully gone. I am so confused
I have almost no clue what my gender is. the only thing i know is that im not a man in any way. i think my gender feels feminine (but not girl) sometimes ??? and im fairly sure its neutral most of the time. but i also have no idea if thats true or not. and im not sure if its fluid or static or both (although writing this out it seems like its fluid). i feel like sometimes i do have a gender, but its not boy or girl. sometimes i do not have a gender. sometimes my gender is feminine. i have no idea what it is, so uh yeah please help if you can
Hi everyone. I've been questioning my gender for a few years now and I would love any input
I am female and look it too, but it doesn't feel right to me. I've slowly gotten comfortable wearing masculine clothes to the point where that is all I wear now, and it makes me happy to do so. My problem is that I don't think I feel completely disconnected from being female, but I don't feel like a man either, and I'm not sure what pronouns to use or if I should keep mine: she/her. I have considered she/they or just they/them but idk if I am comfortable with that yet, or if I ever will be. Ik pronouns don't defy gender but it is also something I question. I have also started to change my name (still a process though). My name is gender neutral but more-so feminine, and every time I hear it, it makes me angry
As far as my body goes, I don't love it, but I don't hate it either. It doesn't cause me any negative emotions, and it only seems to be a problem when I look in the mirror but I also don't want to change anything
I feel fine with my body and people referring me with female terms, but at the same time, I wish I wasn't perceived as female. Does that makes sense? I'm so confused about all of this.
I have thought Demigirl in the past but it doesn't feel right at all. Now, I'm thinking Agender or Librafeminine? I feel like I am somewhere on the Non-Binary spectrum, I'm just not completely sure where/if I am at all or something different entirely
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Okay so! I've been feeling so confused for the longest time and I need someone else's input on this.
I like she/he pronouns. I love masculine compliments. I'm fine with being called a man, woman, etc. But the thing is: I never get gender dysphoria. I feel like a woman, but I also feel like there's more masculine elements to my gender. I don't care if I'm perceived as a man or woman.
I don't know if it's:
Or something else entirely. Please help!
Ok, so this is probably gonna be long.
Ive been questioning my gender for at least 6 months (I’m AFAB) and I am completely unsure where I stand.
When I was 5-10 I looked like a boy. I loved it when people used he/him pronouns and hated anything girly. Then when I went into high school at 11, I was kind of embarrassed at this cause people who knew me always corrected anyone who used he/him instead of she/her and it was always uncomfortable. So I spent the rest of high school presenting pretty feminine. I always had a lot of body image issues since I started presenting as a girl. I never really put two and two together but it would make sense if it was dysphoria.
Im also unsure if I experience dysphoria or if it’s just general body image issues. I don’t like the way my legs and waist look. They look…feminine I suppose. There’s no other way to say it. And I don’t like it. I can’t tell if that’s WHY I don’t like it but I don’t like them. I also don’t like my hair (which is long and is styled in a feminine way) and I wish I had a flat chest. But these feelings aren’t like, strong feelings. Well they are but they aren’t - that doesn’t make sense sorry.
Anyway. Since I’ve been raised as female, I am used to she/her pronouns but I think I would prefer he/him or he/they. I would prefer to present as masculine and I’m not comfortable in super feminine clothing either. I am unsure if this would be ftm trans or something else, or if I’m just a tomboy. I honestly have no clue. The dislike for my body definitely lessened when I saw myself with a flatter chest. Idk if it’s dysphoria though.
I hope I didn’t say anything stupid or insensitive in this - I’m fairly new to gender as I haven’t looked into it a whole bunch as I’m just confused.
Help is super appreciated!!
Ok so I am so confused I have identified as genderfluid for a long while now and I think I'm wrong I always feel like I am agender at the same time as any other gender I feel and even when I'm feminine I still get dysphoria because.of my breasts I've looked into the term Librafluid is that what I am? cause no matter how strong I feel towards a gender I still feel like I'm not fully that gender or like I am always agender anyway I'm probably just genderfluid or something else and confused anyway idk I would appreciate help/an answer but I can question for longer ig XD
Hi, I’m Gaige!!! and I think I need a little bit of advice/help. Also if anyone could use xe/xem or ae/aer pronouns when referring to me that would help!! I want to try them out and see how they feel :-) (sorry, this might be long bc I want to describe my feeling as best I can!!!!)
I’ve identified loosely with the agender identity for some years now (circa ~2014-15) since it was the one identity that I felt most aligned with based on what was available/known at that time. However, as more identities have been listed/discovered/whathaveyou, I think I might need some help pinpointing what exactly lines up most with how I feel?? I’ve kinda just sucked it up and identified as agender more passively just so that I could have a label, so it doesn’t fully feel comfortable to me anymore.
I find comfort in the vagueness of agender, but I’m not sure if it’s really what my identity lines up with. I don’t necessarily feel completely genderless but I am most definitely not cis either. I also don’t feel any pull towards any binary gender (boy, girl, demiboy/girl, etc) and I’m also not gender apathetic. I generally feel a mix of being neutral, feminine, and masculine at all times with a pull towards wanting to have a slightly more masculine energy, but I don’t reeeaally feel any stronger alignment with anything. It’s kinda like I feel all genders (read: neutral genders, feminine-aligned genders, and masculine-aligned genders) at once while also feeling no gender (though it doesn’t feel like a particular /lack/ of gender, just no specific gender-feeling or alignment at all) at the same time. That being said, it isn’t really a fluctuation of gender either, it’s kind of just everything and nothing all at the same time.
Of course, with the exception of wanting a more masculine perception/energy, I also don’t want to be perceived AS a male-aligned person or a male in general since I don’t feel wholly masculine, if that makes sense? For example, I’ve been going by they/he so that people will use the they/them pronouns for me mostly, but having that option of he/him gives off that more masculine energy (I have also been entertaining the thought of using neopronouns like xe/xem or ae/aer as well). I am dfab and I do like presenting myself more femininely IRL, but I’m not sure if that’s just because of conditioning/who I am around, but there is still that bit of femininity in me that I don’t want to completely diminish/erase. Though, I also wouldn’t feel uncomfortable physically presenting as more masculine, wearing my binder, etc. I have a pretty androgynous face so I can find comfort in any presentation. HOWEVER, I don’t want someone to see me irl and think/say: “that is a girl” or “that is a boy”. I don’t want to be actually perceived as a binary gender and I don’t want to be perceived as semi-feminine or semi-masculine either. I honestly want to be perceived as wholly androgynous to the point that ppl can’t rlly tell, but still give off that like… 5% masculine air/energy if that makes sense?
At the end of the day, I’m not sure if I feel agender still fits me best since I don’t feel a full lack of gender, and I don’t think genderfluid or pangender (or other similar identities) would fit me either since I don’t feel a fluctuation of genders or that I have multiple different genders. I have tried iding as genderfluid in the past, but it just never felt correct since I don’t feel like my feeling of gender changes. Like, there isn’t a mix of different compartmentalized genders that I feel at different times, but just like… everything+nothing at the same time as one specific gender-feeling (but then it also doesn’t feel like a big conglomerate gender that has multiple layers. It just feels the same way as identifying with just one gender would feel- i.e: identifying as a boy or girl). If anything, the feeling I’m describing is kiiiiiind of similar to seraphgender, just without the divinity or otherworldly-like qualities. I also don’t want to identify with /just/ nonbinary as my gender label because I want to feel that comfort in having that specific label that fits how I feel (which is also why I’m not sure if agender is the correct label anymore). There’s some big gender envy with characters like Link from LOZ and Howl Pendragon from HMC if that helps at all LMFAO. I will also add that I am neurodivergent (ADHD, OCD, dp/dr) so neuro-gender identities are okay to suggest, but I am white so please don’t suggest any culturally or racially exclusive genders!!! I would prefer it if anyone could suggest more known identities, but honestly anything that aligns the most with what I feel is okay regardless of how known it is. am more than willing to expand upon/clarify anything I’ve said if anyone needs me to!!
Apologies for how long this is and any and all help is welcome and appreciated :-)!!!!
Addendum: I’m okay with identifying with multiple identities!! While I would prefer to use one cohesive label just for the sake of ease, I’m more than okay with multiple identities if there isn’t just *one* specific label that encompasses all that I feel!