Hello everyone! I was wondering if someone could try different pronouns for me? I want to see how if feels. Could you try anything that's not she/her?
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So, I’m relatively confident in my gender identity. I’m amab and identify as male and am comfortable with my assigned gender, but have been feeling disconnected from some secondary sex characteristics, like for example, the structure of my hips, the size of my hands and feet, and the pitch/tone of my voice and feel like I would feel more like myself if I could possess those (feminine/female) traits. I don’t experience any dysphoria or uncomfort in regards to my genitalia lol. So, ig I experience some bodily/sexual dysphoria in regard to select sex characteristics, but don’t experience dysphoria regarding my gender IDENTITY. I also don’t experience enough bodily dysphoria to motivate me to want to transition or anything, but it is still present and moderately, negatively effective in my life. I guess I’m just wondering if there’s a label that’s similar to what I’m describing or if I’m just full of bs lol :,)
anyways, thanks !
so like! basically back in like 2020 i realized i was not cishet and i was like cool ok so basically i identified as nonbinary and went by they/them! but then i was like acutally any pronouns r cool so then i was like yeah but then after a few months i started to get uncomfortable with feminine labels and people calling me she/her so now i go by they/he and im nonbinary masculine leaning! but now!! i feel like?? super extra masculine?? and i dont get it like im debating whether or not im transmasc because like i wanna present as male and be considered or presumed male! but sometimes i feel a bit feminine! idk how to explain it! so im just like?? confused???? like man like fuck gender norms and steryotypes like i wanna be able to present masculine but wanna wear something "steryotypically feminine" without being considered female :( like!!! what the hell am i!!!! maybe genderfluid but i dunno!
Hi! so im afab and currently identify as genderfluid. Though i have been questioning for a while now. So for the most part I feel very feminine and physically look very feminine. Though I usually have masc energy? i would think I'm cis but every month or so I come across a wave of gender envy and dysphoria. I'm fine with all pronouns but I wouldn't want to identify as a man?
I really like having a label so maybe there is another label i can use? or stay genderfluid? or maybe i should ditch the label? please and thank you for any help!
Recently, my body has been oppressing me more and more. I am a biological woman, but for 3 half a year I have been feeling like a guy, I imagine myself with male proportions and a low voice, I also created an alter ego that has all those ideal qualities that I want to have. I realized that I was a trans man and was quite happy with the choice, but lately I have prioritized my ego and due to the inability to fulfill the need to be more muscular, I began to hate my body to such an extent that I began to experience physical dysphoria. I hate hearing my own voice, I can't fully perceive myself as a man. I can't perceive myself in any way. I want to ask people who have experienced physical dysphoria: how did you deal with it?
Ok, so this is probably gonna be long.
Ive been questioning my gender for at least 6 months (I’m AFAB) and I am completely unsure where I stand.
When I was 5-10 I looked like a boy. I loved it when people used he/him pronouns and hated anything girly. Then when I went into high school at 11, I was kind of embarrassed at this cause people who knew me always corrected anyone who used he/him instead of she/her and it was always uncomfortable. So I spent the rest of high school presenting pretty feminine. I always had a lot of body image issues since I started presenting as a girl. I never really put two and two together but it would make sense if it was dysphoria.
Im also unsure if I experience dysphoria or if it’s just general body image issues. I don’t like the way my legs and waist look. They look…feminine I suppose. There’s no other way to say it. And I don’t like it. I can’t tell if that’s WHY I don’t like it but I don’t like them. I also don’t like my hair (which is long and is styled in a feminine way) and I wish I had a flat chest. But these feelings aren’t like, strong feelings. Well they are but they aren’t - that doesn’t make sense sorry.
Anyway. Since I’ve been raised as female, I am used to she/her pronouns but I think I would prefer he/him or he/they. I would prefer to present as masculine and I’m not comfortable in super feminine clothing either. I am unsure if this would be ftm trans or something else, or if I’m just a tomboy. I honestly have no clue. The dislike for my body definitely lessened when I saw myself with a flatter chest. Idk if it’s dysphoria though.
I hope I didn’t say anything stupid or insensitive in this - I’m fairly new to gender as I haven’t looked into it a whole bunch as I’m just confused.
Help is super appreciated!!
Hi, I’m Gaige!!! and I think I need a little bit of advice/help. Also if anyone could use xe/xem or ae/aer pronouns when referring to me that would help!! I want to try them out and see how they feel :-) (sorry, this might be long bc I want to describe my feeling as best I can!!!!)
I’ve identified loosely with the agender identity for some years now (circa ~2014-15) since it was the one identity that I felt most aligned with based on what was available/known at that time. However, as more identities have been listed/discovered/whathaveyou, I think I might need some help pinpointing what exactly lines up most with how I feel?? I’ve kinda just sucked it up and identified as agender more passively just so that I could have a label, so it doesn’t fully feel comfortable to me anymore.
I find comfort in the vagueness of agender, but I’m not sure if it’s really what my identity lines up with. I don’t necessarily feel completely genderless but I am most definitely not cis either. I also don’t feel any pull towards any binary gender (boy, girl, demiboy/girl, etc) and I’m also not gender apathetic. I generally feel a mix of being neutral, feminine, and masculine at all times with a pull towards wanting to have a slightly more masculine energy, but I don’t reeeaally feel any stronger alignment with anything. It’s kinda like I feel all genders (read: neutral genders, feminine-aligned genders, and masculine-aligned genders) at once while also feeling no gender (though it doesn’t feel like a particular /lack/ of gender, just no specific gender-feeling or alignment at all) at the same time. That being said, it isn’t really a fluctuation of gender either, it’s kind of just everything and nothing all at the same time.
Of course, with the exception of wanting a more masculine perception/energy, I also don’t want to be perceived AS a male-aligned person or a male in general since I don’t feel wholly masculine, if that makes sense? For example, I’ve been going by they/he so that people will use the they/them pronouns for me mostly, but having that option of he/him gives off that more masculine energy (I have also been entertaining the thought of using neopronouns like xe/xem or ae/aer as well). I am dfab and I do like presenting myself more femininely IRL, but I’m not sure if that’s just because of conditioning/who I am around, but there is still that bit of femininity in me that I don’t want to completely diminish/erase. Though, I also wouldn’t feel uncomfortable physically presenting as more masculine, wearing my binder, etc. I have a pretty androgynous face so I can find comfort in any presentation. HOWEVER, I don’t want someone to see me irl and think/say: “that is a girl” or “that is a boy”. I don’t want to be actually perceived as a binary gender and I don’t want to be perceived as semi-feminine or semi-masculine either. I honestly want to be perceived as wholly androgynous to the point that ppl can’t rlly tell, but still give off that like… 5% masculine air/energy if that makes sense?
At the end of the day, I’m not sure if I feel agender still fits me best since I don’t feel a full lack of gender, and I don’t think genderfluid or pangender (or other similar identities) would fit me either since I don’t feel a fluctuation of genders or that I have multiple different genders. I have tried iding as genderfluid in the past, but it just never felt correct since I don’t feel like my feeling of gender changes. Like, there isn’t a mix of different compartmentalized genders that I feel at different times, but just like… everything+nothing at the same time as one specific gender-feeling (but then it also doesn’t feel like a big conglomerate gender that has multiple layers. It just feels the same way as identifying with just one gender would feel- i.e: identifying as a boy or girl). If anything, the feeling I’m describing is kiiiiiind of similar to seraphgender, just without the divinity or otherworldly-like qualities. I also don’t want to identify with /just/ nonbinary as my gender label because I want to feel that comfort in having that specific label that fits how I feel (which is also why I’m not sure if agender is the correct label anymore). There’s some big gender envy with characters like Link from LOZ and Howl Pendragon from HMC if that helps at all LMFAO. I will also add that I am neurodivergent (ADHD, OCD, dp/dr) so neuro-gender identities are okay to suggest, but I am white so please don’t suggest any culturally or racially exclusive genders!!! I would prefer it if anyone could suggest more known identities, but honestly anything that aligns the most with what I feel is okay regardless of how known it is. am more than willing to expand upon/clarify anything I’ve said if anyone needs me to!!
Apologies for how long this is and any and all help is welcome and appreciated :-)!!!!
Addendum: I’m okay with identifying with multiple identities!! While I would prefer to use one cohesive label just for the sake of ease, I’m more than okay with multiple identities if there isn’t just *one* specific label that encompasses all that I feel!
First of all hello! Could someone in the comments please refer to me with the name Milo and it/its pronouns? I'm trying to see if I feel comfortable with them :D
Basically about a year ago I started questioning my gender. I'm AFAB and I used to go by they/she/he, and when I came out to my best friend at the time, it was kinda weird. First they said I might be confusing my dysphoria with dysmorphia, which is not true. Then a little while later they started fitting me into a 'trans guy box' (if that makes sense) and started to tell people I'm a trans guy before I had things figured out. Everything happened way too fast and because of them, I wasn't able to take my time with figuring everything out. Now that I don't talk to them anymore, I'm back to being confused about everything.
I currently go by he/they but I'm not completely comfortable with that. Somedays I don't like to be called a 'man' or 'male', but I still like terms like 'boy' or 'handsome'. I never like being called a 'girl' or a 'woman', and i think I might be genderfaun.
If anyone reads this, I would really appreciate your help and thanks in advance! <3
Hi, im Asher. Im AFAB. This may be kind of long so I understand If you dont want to read it. I identify with all pronouns. There isnt a specific pronoun that I prefer. Im comfortable with them all. I feel like a guy who identifies with all pronouns. I am super comfortable with people using he/him pronouns for me but i am the same with she/her because I do feel feminine in a way. If i were to put how feminine i feel on a scale it would be 4.5/10. If I were to put how masculine I feel on a scale it would be 9/10. I don't want to transition either. Well, aside from making my breasts smaller or looking like a males.... As far as appearance wise I want to look like a guy but feminine as well. Yk like when you look at me you question if im a girl or guy but then you look a little longer and just think that im a guy who has feminine features. So in general i feel like a guy who is comfortable with all pronouns. Im not sure what term that is, so heres where i need help. Does anyone know what i am, or have an idea? Im a guy who likes all pronouns but theres also a little bit of me who identifies as a girl. Not really though because only 3% out of 100% of me feels this way. I am very comfortable with saying im transgender because I do feel like a guy but Im not sure if that is the right term for me to use because i do feel feminine in some ways
*Sorry for any grammar or spelling mistakes, it's 2 AM and I'm tired
I'm needing some help here because I'm currently handling 5 gender identities(?) and I wanted to know what would be better for me or if I can be these things all at once?
Currently, these are either the ones I'm sure about and the others I'm questioning
Bold: Sure about this identity
Not Bold: Questioning/Unsure
I've experienced a lot and I feel like my identity is something I'm struggling with after a few months. I know some of these are umbrella terms but I just need to make sure if it's fine for me to be many things at once without something deemed "contradictory". I think that I can be all of these things but I just want validation.
Hi everybody! I’m brand new to this, but I’ve seen a few people post about trans/enby playlists and music they like so I thought maybe this would be a good place to share my music! My names flora and I make some sort of indie alternative emo pop mellow rock stuff. I think I’m similar to artists like Rex Orange County, Willow Smith, Cavetown, Conan Gray, COIN. People like that :’) here’s the link to my latest single if you wanna check it out, ily 🥰
So one of my friends isn’t out to his parents (they’re not great), and he always asks his friends to misgender and deadname him on text for that reason, and I’ve checked privately with him multiple times to make sure he’s sure he’s okay with that and he’s always assured me that he is and it’s necessary so obviously I do it but I’m still conflicted on it, it feels so wrong and every time I have to do it I know he isn’t upset but it still feels like a betrayal and I feel bad, I guess I’m just wondering how to feel better about it because I know it’s for his safety. Am I really doing the right thing? Sometimes it doesn’t feel like it. I don’t really have a question, I’m just looking for advice on how to reconcile my support for him with the fact I have to consciously disrespect him. It feels wrong. If you have any reassurances or advice I’d appreciate anything you have to say.
-Non binary’s that go by they/them
-Non binary’s that go by she/her
-Non binary’s that go by he/him
-Non binary’s that go by neopronouns
-female’s/male’s that go by she/her, he/him, they/them, or neopronouns
-anyone who’s here and queer
-anyone who’s here and not queer
Things I don’t love...
-People being transphobic and making fun of people because of their gender or pronouns.
We are all human.
We are all people with feelings and emotions.
No matter what people tell you about your gender or your pronouns.
I love you <3
Hi! so I'm Demigirlflux, and my pronouns she/they and I was reading a thing that said that if you go by anything besides she/her or him/him, you are considered trans or under the trans identity. Well, I found an image that has demigirl, demi boy, etc. and I'm wondering does that count with Demigirlflux?