So one of my friends isn’t out to his parents (they’re not great), and he always asks his friends to misgender and deadname him on text for that reason, and I’ve checked privately with him multiple times to make sure he’s sure he’s okay with that and he’s always assured me that he is and it’s necessary so obviously I do it but I’m still conflicted on it, it feels so wrong and every time I have to do it I know he isn’t upset but it still feels like a betrayal and I feel bad, I guess I’m just wondering how to feel better about it because I know it’s for his safety. Am I really doing the right thing? Sometimes it doesn’t feel like it. I don’t really have a question, I’m just looking for advice on how to reconcile my support for him with the fact I have to consciously disrespect him. It feels wrong. If you have any reassurances or advice I’d appreciate anything you have to say.