Hello! I recently discovered I was Agender and I posted here in hopes another Agender person could tell me if, from my explanation, they thought I was Agender or not.
Finding Out (this took about 4-5 days)
So I never really gave it any thought but then one day I did. "Huh, I don't really feel like a girl." Which was weird, because I was a girl. I didn't feel like a girl or a boy. I didn't feel anything to those two terms. Nothing. So I started talking to my Non-binary friend who went through their own self-discovery time. They asked me questions and helped me. In the end when I didn't say I felt like a man or a woman, they told me I was most likely Agender. So I stuck with it. Then I was starting to doubt myself a little so I looked a little more into it and found this next part:
People who identify as agender may describe themselves as one or more of the following:
"Gender neutral. This may be meant in the sense of being neither man or woman yet still having a gender."
"They can also present in any way - masculine, feminine, both or something completely beyond the binary."
↑I'm genderfluid in gender presentation (not sure if there's a word for that but that's how I put it)so yep
Got it form:
Now let me elaborate:
"Genderless or lacking gender."
I don't feel like a boy or a girl. I feel nothing when I am related to those terms. I don't feel empty, I just don't feel any feelings towards those words when they're applied to me. "I am a girl." No security or confidence in saying it to myself. Same with "I am a boy." Just nothing. But genderless felt wrong to me. I felt like I needed a gender identity, that I had one but I just didn't have a name for it. Then I saw "Gender neutral. This may be meant in the sense of being neither man or woman yet still having a gender." and went like "Oh, that's totally me!"
I'm a bit of a wonky person but I'm mostly normal. Sometimes I'll want to dress feminine (skirts, leggings, stockings, etc. but not dresses because those are cold). Sometimes masculine (pants, t-shirt, shorts, etc.). Sometimes I don't give it any thought at all. Sometimes I just throw on some random clothes and waltz around proudly.
This gave me all the confidence I needed and now I'm sure I'm Agender. But if anyone else who's Agender is reading this, can you tell me if you think I'm Agender or something else?