I found out I'm gay and trans....it's a great thing to know...but it also hurts knowing the lack of support I'll get...but one thing that really helped me realize is that I'm not attracted to women, I tend to idolize them and relate to them. Realizing I could idolize historical women without being attracted to them helped a ton lmao. I use he/him now btw.
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What I if I was trans and gay......
Uh....umm....
Can I still have like an obsession with a female character/historical figures and be gay?
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So ik I'm aroace def but like tertiary attraction + aroace is a spectrum. I thought about it. I thought hard and deep. I use pfps of female characters and am obsessed with a lot of them, but when I thought about it, I realized I never connected to it myself. I had assumed, since I was queer with internalized transphobia, that I must be a lesbian. But do I actually want to be with a woman, cis or trans? No. Not really. I would rather have a masc or nb person (I'm transmasc nb). I don't think I'm actually attracted to women. Oh my god.
I feel like I'm angelgender but I'm not diagnosed neurodivergent (yet) and I don't want to be offensive (even though I know I'm not neurotypical, I don't have a proper medical diagnosis). Advice?
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i’m putting this in general because it could be seen as off-topic but also project talk
So I thought it would be fun/funny to go on to all queer wikis and just hoard labels that describe me (this has nothing to do with the Self-acceptance Rant Don't Mind Me post; this hoarding is just for me).
And when I was on the aromantic wiki, I found Mogoromantic. It describes someone who feels romantic attraction to others and desires romantic relationships with others; however, if you start dating someone that you are attracted to, you start to lose all attraction to them for no reason other than that you simply started dating them. This is me! 100%!
In my freshman year of high school (USA), I had a crush on this guy, and when we started dating, all my attraction for him just disappeared completely for no reason. So I just broke up with him after 1 week of dating him.
A moment of 2 AM realization lead me to realize that I am transmasc nonbinary and aroace. I am using they/he prns now and I am still deciding my name, I will give an update.
(Totally stealing the idea from @/Jayden Chip & @/Historystar)
Let's see how well I can manage this since there's more than just one person. How fun. So, for the most part, the folks in our system don't really share identities- especially since they came in waves. Half of them are years old and it certainly reflects, and the other half are fairly new (within the last 6-ish months). Going in masc to fem order for ease. I'll try to link things.
Update: Tired. :P I will finish this later. Don't wanna not post it though since I don't want the links to delete.
Cassius (hey, that me!):
Gender: Fictivian, detragender male, maybe aboy
Names: Cassius/Cassian, Gaius/Gaia/Gala
Pronouns: He/him strictly
System stuff: Fictive, 2nd wave, host & gatekeeper of many things
Sabyr:
Fully unlabeled, do not ask it <3
Names: Sabyr, Sunder
Pronouns: It/they
System stuff: Extranth (tiger), 1st wave, solely a persecutor
Malakai:
Orientation: Bi-achillean aegoaroace, aroaceflux
Gender: Androgyne, transmasc, GNC, genderqueer
Names: Malakai/Mal, Ness, Gen, Josiah/Joe
Pronouns: He/they
System stuff: Core
What is my sexuality man, I'm so freaking confused.
Romantic and Sexual:
Like, for sexual attraction, most of the time I don't really feel it all that much, but sometimes I do, like...once in a blue moon. For romantic attraction, I find people attractive and like romantic things, but I don't really become obsessed with people or whatever, and I don't just crush on random people, I feel uncomfortable in the relationship if I don't know them and don't have a good connection with them, and I have very high relationship standards. I'd feel fear if someone was s3xually attracted to me, even if they were my partner I wouldn't be mad at them or like lose all attraction or something, it's just a weird feeling.
Genders I'm attracted too:
Now this one gets wild. I was a lesbian for a long time, but now that I've realized that I am indeed trans, I have also realized I like men, male-aligned, and masculine-aligned people. I would date someone of the male gender or aligned. I for female or fem-aligned people...well...I have always had a strong connection to female figures and such, probably due to being raised as female, and tend to always think they are very pretty. If I were to date a fem or fem-aligned person irl, I may feel less comfortable than with a masc or male-aligned or nonbinary person or someone under the nb umbrella. Help? Advice?
Oh also, I'm questioning some alterhuman stuff, would it be better to go here or the otherkin wiki?/genq
I've finally solved it, and I'm so happy rn. A lot of things make more sense now that I've figured it out, honestly.
The problem I'm having with settling down on a few labels revolves around the complexity and fluidity of my identity and my being. I'm exploring different aspects of my queer identity, and I've found a bunch of labels that describe different parts of who I am. However, navigating this vast array of labels can be overwhelming, especially when it comes to communicating my identity to others, especially non-queer people.
On one hand, I recognize the practicality of using simplified labels or a small number of terms to make conversations about my identity easier to have. Simplifying my labels can make it easier for others to understand my identity without overwhelming them with an extensive list of terms.
However, on the other hand, I'm very much struggling with the intense desire to accurately represent the complexity and nuances of my identity with over 100 labels. Each label I've discovered holds great significance to me and reflects a specific aspect of my identity, making it challenging to narrow down my labels to under 5.
After much contemplation and reflection, I've ultimately decided to strike a balance between simplicity and authenticity. By choosing to communicate my identity with the labels "he/they, doxigender, fidelityflux, omniaspec, omnomi, and greyrose," I'm effectively conveying major aspects of my queer identity while maintaining clarity and easy understanding for others. These labels encapsulate important dimensions of my identity. And if someone doesn't know what they mean, I can easily explain all 5 of them!
This decision allows me to honor the complexity of my identity while also recognizing the practicality of using a small number of labels in everyday conversations. By embracing these labels, I'm asserting my identity on my own terms and paving the way for more affirming interactions with others.
The reason why I like it so much is because I *am* a [trans] man, I kinda feel like a woman, and sometimes like a non-binary person. I am mainly afidelitous, but I can experience intense desire for demifidelitous, monofidelitous, and polyfidelitous types of relationships. I am a-spec in most, if not all, of my orientations. I am omni- in all of my orientations. And I experience romantic and sexual attraction infrequently, and when I do feel it, it’s very weak and can easily ‘break’ (like break off or break away. IDK, just a silly little way of thinking about it). So yes, this is me. *This* is who I am.
I'm achillean, omni, grayace, and demiro! Though I'm still questioning one last thing, that is whether I'm monogamous or not.
Now I don't know if I'm NB or trans...
So I thought I had found my kintypes but I thought a bit deeper and realized I might also have a kintype for snow leopards? As I am definitely wolfkin, and I've had the same expierience with snow leopards. Huh.
Like...what if I was transmasc nonbinary and aroace...I think that's me....I think that's me yall....
So...through a bit of research...I'm actually nonbinary and aroace....hehe...heh...
"Let kids be kids" is often used to against the argument and push for queer education in schools. well, "letting kids be kids" also means /allowing them the space and resources to explore themselves/
Just made this because I've been hearing that argument a lot in my life lately, and it bothers me. made a cute little drawing for it (don't be fooled by its simplicity, this took an ungodly amount of time to finish)
Anyways have a nice day and give yourself a hug :>
So I am still questioning my sexuality, (refer to what the what), but I found my gender. I'm trans (FTM), genderqueer, and xenogenders
Inspired by @Jayden Chip !!
Sexuality:
Omnisexual: The attraction to all genders but gender plays a role in the attraction. This can in the form of having a preference, being attracted to certain gender traits, and/or experiencing attraction to all genders differently.
Achillean: A label for any non-women of any sexuality who is attracted to other non-women.
Graysexual: Feeling rare and/or weak sexual attraction, being inbetween asexual and allosexual, being in a 'gray area', and/or finding it hard to distiguish/tell if you have sexual attraction, though there's more possible expieriences, the gist of it is not feeling as much attraction as allosexuals or being in that 'gray area'.
Demiromantic: Not expieriencing romantic attraction without a deep, emotional connection.
Ambiamourous: Being open to both monogamy and polyamory.
Gender:
Transgender (FTM): Not identifying with the gender you were assigned at birth, specifically jn my case being assigned female at birth but actually male, a trans boy.
Genderqueer: Queer and non-normative gender/expierience with gender. Typically associated with queering gender norms.
Xenogenders: Genders related to concepts that are not typically thought of to be gender.
Alterhuman Kintypes:
Snow leopard
Angels
Wolf
Conceptkin
Pronouns:
He/him + any neopronouns